Post by Seferino Retumbano on Nov 18, 2011 9:48:00 GMT -5
The studies exist, yes, but they're contradictory as often as not. The only thing we know for sure is that expelling anger- or other emotions- this way is better than not doing anything.
Psychology lesson! There are 5 different ways to deal with emotion (starting with the least effective):
[*:oa8hnhxi]Ignore [*:oa8hnhxi]Distract [*:oa8hnhxi]Act out [*:oa8hnhxi]Meditation [*:oa8hnhxi]Fix it with outward or inward action
That's why I rated this a 3/5 for effectiveness. It's not the best thing we could be doing, but at least we're not bottling it up this way.
And yes, I'm a Humanistic psychologist. However did you know?
Sorry for bad wording on my part, I sounded kind of flippant. What I meant is that I think there are a million other ways to do this than write it in a forum where disinterested people can read and come with pseudo-uplifting words.
I just believe - with research backing me up, and down - that focus on bad events is a generally destructive thing to do. I've been through periods of mild or dramatic anger, and appreciation for my surroundings and existence is what turned it around for me.
That being said, I do respect your evaluation of this method, and I expect you to be more knowledgeable than me on this subject as I can only speak from personal experience. I would like to hear some of the better alternatives, if you know any, as I think promoting bad or merely ok sollutionn is a waste of energy.
Post by Elijah Booth on Nov 18, 2011 12:27:00 GMT -5
Sarcasm--best way to release your anger. I make sarcastic jokes and people laugh at them, but secretly I'm expelling my own trash into the atmosphere harmlessly...so long as there are laughs. It makes me feel like I'm getting all of the venom out of my system and then I feel even better for making someone laugh.
Hard to beat that.
It's interesting that you're a shrink Mitsu...I'm sure there's much to be said about people who frequent places like this...lol.
Post by Hiiro Takanishi on Nov 18, 2011 18:04:00 GMT -5
This became less of a vent thread. And more of a discussion about if a vent thread actually helps you or not.
Does it matter? As long as people can explain their feelings to someone, even if it's just a forum of people who also feel a bit down.
I don't know about anyone else, but now i'm worry about posting anything about my own personal feelings on this thread because people are going to be looking at them and judging if it's healthy or not!
Post by Donovan Darko on Nov 19, 2011 10:23:00 GMT -5
Well right now, Iâ€™m pretty pissed off and getting rather stoned so it elevates my mood. I have been dismissed from work for gross misconduct. The long and short of it is that I sold a new video game (Dark Souls, which is pretty awesome btw) to a close friend of mine using my staffs discount. The game was not going through the till; I had scanned enough times so I resorted to entering the details manually. By accident Iâ€™ve put it through the system as a pre-owned item rather than new retail. Not noticing that Iâ€™d made the mistake, I sold it to him. The price he should have paid (with my discount) was something like Â£33 but instead he got it for Â£29, a whooping saving of Â£4! Been dicked over for Â£4, what a cunt!!! Instead of making pay the difference they have sacked me instead. Fucking wankers! The situation and the money problems I have at home at difficult enough at home already, this really does not help matters. Iâ€™ve already got an idea what to, write an appeal letter, talk to the Citizen Advice Bureau and sign on to Job Seekers Allowance. But all thatâ€™s got to wait till Monday (because both places are closed) till them Iâ€™m going to chill out and get my head straight.
In the end we're all just chalk lines on the concrete. Drawn, only to be washed away. For the time I've been given, I am what I am. Life is a storm, my young friend. You will bask in the sunlight one moment, be shattered on the rocks the next. What makes you a man is what you do when that storm comes. When you find that one person who connects you to the world, you become someone di
I feel like dog shit recently. Lower than dog-shit. I feel really bad about myself for some reason. Like I can't do anything. Its probably because its so close to finals, the weather is changing to all dark and gloomy VERY suddenly (I was sweating from a heat a week ago) and there's a lot of stress around the house. But its starting to affect my online relationships. So if I start to freak out because I see you post for someone before you post for me or you are busy with stuff so I think your not talking to me because I said something stupid/mean or I'm acting too clingy...I'm sorry in advance. I tend to get really clingy when I'm sick and I'm coming down with this awful flu...
Honestly I just feel like crying sometimes I feel so awful...I really want to just lie in bed all day with someone hugging/being hugged. I feel really empty...lonely...and I know your all here to support me and your kind words do touch my heart even through the cold unfeeling internet. I'm serious. So thank you for your words of kindness and I'll remember them and try to repay them as best I can. I'm in all your debt.
Ok I finished...well I didn't finish much of my website. But I finished most of the other project and enough of the website to ask for an extension without looking like I didn't honestly try. I feel much better than before after hearing all your kind words (again) and realizing a lot of this is just winter + Finals slump.
And because a lot of you asked: I got a ton finished and the banners will be worked on after next week. I have infinite homework to complete until Thanksgiving and the less number of times I have to boot photoshop the better my brain can heal.
A few shout-outs to some people who really make my life special.
Thank you, 7-Eleven.
Thank you for being so backstabbing and underhanded. For seeing me in need of medical assistance and your insurance, only to fire me over something as trivial as forgetting to pay for a donut so you wouldn't have to risk having me go to the hospital again. Never mind that I'm on medication for hallucinations and whatnot, you need to meet your bottom line.
Thank you, spanish-speaking car driver.
Thank you for being able to pass your driver's test enough for the state to give you a license, then throwing out every bit of sense when you have to actually drive. Thank you for ignoring me when you pulled out, and accelerating to the proper speed limit. Thank you for hitting me in excess of twenty miles while I was on my bicycle, trashing both my bike and my ankle.
Thank you, call assistant for the place helping the unemployed find jobs.
Thank you for disregarding me completely when you found out I did not drive a car. Never mind that I can walk within the distance you specified, or take the bus. If I don't have a car, I am worthless to the working community. I did not know this, but you so graciously pointed it out to me.
Post by Hiiro Takanishi on Nov 21, 2011 18:27:00 GMT -5
Quote of the day: "And you wonder why people think your not paying attention to your work? You wonder why you don't get much respect?"
I'm not going to vent now. But feed all of my frustration into this stupid 7 page research paper i have to complete. Because i am DAMN good at the job i do. And i will not sit by and watch people tell me i'm not with bitchy sarcasm.
Post by HelloKitty on Nov 21, 2011 23:56:00 GMT -5
I HATE --Haha, caught you off guard. Never forget that I do not have any emotions whatsoever. Also, before you point out that I already posted in this thread please think about this: does proving me wrong actually matter that much to you?
Post by Hiiro Takanishi on Nov 22, 2011 0:55:00 GMT -5
This is not a vent but of a mutual reaching out for a friend who so desperately needs to vent. but cannot dig it out of her sweet heart to yell at the world.
please universe, give her the strength to make life easier on her. Or at least let me be around to punch that stupid bitch in the face. Because she made my friend cry. I found seven messages on my phone and woke her in a panic to hear her sobbing her eyes out. I wish this woman many days of misfortune and STD's for hurting my friend so.
I also want to ask the strange cyber universe to make my other friends world calm down. Please get rid of their foster sister, who constantly tries to commit suicide by throwing herself off the second story balcony, and stabbing herself in the stomach with a cork screw...and slamming her head against the wall. Please make their foster mother come home and not leave them with this strange girl who keeps trying to destroy herself.
because no 16 year old should have to pull a girl off the balcony, or pull a bloodied corn screw from her sisters stomach, and have to break down a door to reach her before she kills herself.
No 16 year old girl should have to call an ambulance for her foster sister. Then have to listen to her foster mother scream at her for being so utterly stupid. To have to go through all of that and still be told she is not worth anything, that she is not wanted.
I can't vent once i've heard their horrible days. So i'll just vent for them, lord knows they need a good cry more than i do. My problems seem to petty and yet they still smile.
What do you do when you're being sexually harassed and your mother says 'I don't think its a big issue.' EXCUSE ME? My own fucking uncle is sexually harassing me. And my mom acts like its no big deal. He walks on me trying to change and stuff. I'm really scared. She refuses to do anything, what's she waiting for? Me to be raped? ;-;
I'm so sick and tired of the trolling and disrespect in that damned cursed little fucking box down there. Yeah fuck the chat box. It causes more drama on this site than any other element on the page. It causes people to fly off the handle due to its ease of communication and seemingly impermanence. It draws in trolls and cowards who seem to have no freakin' intention of doing anything on this site other than causing problems. It lets people argue directly with staff and veterans who know what they are talking about EVEN WHEN THE NEWER PLAYER WAS THE ONE WHO ASKED FOR HELP. It represents everything I hate about the internet: either mindless glomping and distractions from getting something creative done or outright deceitful, hateful and annoying trolling that leads the site into uproars that people expect me to solve.
Our head admin rocks bro. After seeing my rage up there, she took that picture, went into the admin panel, and made it my Avatar.
KASUMI FOR PRESIDENT.
Kasu for president indeed.
That being said: I'm really mad at myself...I feel like dirt. I hurt someone I care about and I don't know what to do about it...T_T I'm just glad I have this thread to dump in sometimes (despite my previous comment).
EDIT: I am so upset now. Its finals week and I have a huge project due monday and wednesday. I was supposed to go to sleep 4 hours ago but I'm just too angry to do it now. I have a headache, I'm convulsing and I don't know what to do with this mixture of tears and anger in my heart. This is the worst. I hate this.