if you let someone's words get to you you really have nobody to blame but yourself
you cannot, however, be blamed for having a skeleton that can only take so much physical duress
"sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" is one of those super wise things that people seem to have forgotten
you'll note that nobody ever blames someone for having a broken bone--the events leading up to the fracture are often called into question, but it is the result of something that is wholly out of your control
how you choose to react to someone's words, however, is completely within your control and failure to exert said control is most certainly the hallmark of weak character
I apologize deeply, but honestly how set in your opinions do you have to be to decide that it's easier for you to tell people to buck up than to just stop making nasty and rude comments at everyone and everything that passes you by?
I-I... I'm using you in the royal sense, of course, but my point still stands. It's easier to be a better person that it is to not. I don't care if being a jerk is your internet brand, it's inherently toxic, unfun and it just ruins the experience for everyone else. It's not hard to stop. It's not hard to decide that hey, who cares if someone could 'deal' with being messed with like this, they're still not enjoying it and maybe that's reflecting badly back on me? Maybe being a good, normal, morally competent person and not bothering them and causing issues and stirring up arguments would be a good thing here?
This is so meta, honestly. The same reason that letter and this topic and everything was posted is happening inside of their own threads. This started as a new movement to combat bullying but all it has become is... some weird... bullshit... pissing circlejerk contest where everyone tries to see how badly they can piss off everyone else by being as abrasive and crude as absolutely possible.
I don't understand it!
Once again, I apologize, I've only been here for two weeks but up until this point I have greatly enjoyed my time here. I have made a lot of friends in a short period and I was cautioned about getting involved with this issue but it's gone past someone quitting. Now it's a site issue. It's a site issue of disgusting toxicity that people would rather make excuses for rather than grow up and... and... stop!
Just stop being rude! Stop making bad and hurtful jokes or poking at people who don't want it! Stop making excuses for it because it's what YOU want to do!
A-and, staff, don't sit there and say nothing can be done about this, please. That's how this entire problem started! That way of thinking is exactly what caused all of this in the first place! Bullying and grossness is happening literally inside the discussions of these issues and it's just... being allowed! This isn't the 'real world', or just 'the internet', this is a controlled, moderated atmosphere where people go to have fun.
And no one has any right to make that harder or less fun for anyone else just because they feel like they're cool by being a jerk!
Sorry, but... I'm not!
Edit: Two hours later and, after being able to voice my concerns and talk this out with people, I am feeling a fair bit calmer about the issue. My temper was not lost and I wouldn't say I was upset, per se, but I was bothered by the current events. I never once thought we couldn't get through this, but I did feel as if we were not going forward! I still agree with every single thing I stated in this post but I am eagerly, hopefully not naively, looking forward to a better tomorrow and better attitudes! You're all great, intelligent people, and this is only passing drama. C: Just remember to keep your chin up and always be nice to those around you!
We're singing I believe that lovers should be chained together and thrown into a fire with their songs and letters, and left there to burn. Left there to burn in their arrogance.
Post by Kizen Haetora on Aug 30, 2015 18:03:44 GMT -5
Yes, everyone has the right to freedom of speech and their own opinion. But how has it become acceptable for adults to abuse that privilege? No one in their proper cognizance would hassle someone like this in person. If they did, nine out of ten people would slap them in the face. However, since the words were typed instead of spoken many have suggested ignoring it and turning the other cheek. This will not stop it from continuing. The good that has come from sharing the victims struggles offsets the cruelty. That doesn't mean they will just brush it off and excuse the actions of others just cause it's been talked about here..That is exactly how society got into this mess in the first place. But people will never forget the overwhelming feelings of hurt and sadness that this apparent cruelty has caused. It doesn't make you a 9-year-old little girl praying silently each day on the way to school that the bullies would pick on someone else that day if you are upset by someones posts. But that's okay, because I just saved a bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to Geico.